i can’t tell you how many times i’ve spoken up about harassment only to be told to “learn to take a compliment”.
since when do “compliments” intrude on my space? what kind of “compliment” makes a person feel unsafe or threatened?
harassment isn’t a compliment. know the difference.
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is anyONE ELSE JUST SO EXCITED FOR PUMPKINS AND HOT CHOCOLATE AND HaLLOwEEEEN AND SPOOKY MOVIES AND FAIRS AND KNEE SOCKS AND PUMPKIN LATTES AND BIG BLANKETS AND COZY CUDDLY SWEATERS AND PRETTY LEAVES AND i just started crYING
the “you live with your parents” insult is really flaccid because a metric shitton of cultures don’t see “leave the house forever” as some grandiose moment of liberation that’s so important to the development of a person that it has to happen as fast as possible. until i came to the USA i didn’t know a single person who was pressured by their parents to leave the house because they’re “too old to stay there” or whatever. in puerto rico it is really common to stay with your parents until they and you are both stable enough that you can leave. whaddaya know, there are cultures that don’t place a stigma on being poor or wanting to care for your family or needing your family to care for you for some other reason.
But what isn’t okay is not trying to make yourself stable again. My 59-year-old uncle is living with his mother (my grandma) after he has lied, stolen money (from my grandma specifically), and has gotten into legal trouble. He does nothing whatsoever even though he says he’s been trying to look for a job. He’s been saying that for three years and so far has put no effort into doing so. He once said he worked at Wal-Mart which turned out to be a big lie. Annoys the hell out of me, really. And it’s depressing my grandma. In that situation, I don’t think it’s acceptable. I don’t think leeching like that is acceptable at all.
I think what is acceptable is contributing to the household in some way or if you’re in college and can’t afford housing costs. Stuff like that.
"Dinosaurs - The Lost World" exhibit at the Cranbrook Institute of Science.